You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out

We’re often told, in subtle and loud ways, that by a certain age or stage we should “have it all together.” There is endless pressure to know exactly where we’re heading, what we want, and how to get there. But here’s the quiet truth that many of us need to hear: it’s okay to not have it all figured out.

Life isn’t linear. It doesn’t unfold in a straight line. It weaves, loops, pauses. Sometimes it surprises you. Sometimes it stalls. Being unsure, lost, or in between isn’t a failure it’s part of being human and you are not behind. You are not broken. You are simply living.

There is power in learning to sit with the place you’re in, even if it's messy, uncertain, or nothing like what you had pictured. Often, this space holds growth that can’t be rushed. Trusting the process doesn’t mean pretending it’s easy, it means recognising that you're allowed to take your time, re-route, and evolve.

One of life’s biggest myths is that we’re supposed to reach a final version of ourselves. But you are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to be in progress.

So if you’re feeling pressure to figure it all out: take a breath. You don’t need all the answers. You just need enough space to keep going. Be kind to yourself.