Your wellbeing matters.

Through this blog and community space, I hope to offer thoughtful perspectives, helpful strategies, and an open conversation on finding balance in everyday life.

“HEALING DOESN’T MEAN THE DAMAGE NEVER EXISTED. IT MEANS THE DAMAGE NO LONGER CONTROLS YOUR LIFE.”

Challenging Negative Thoughts

    • “No one likes me”

    • “No one wants me”

    • “I’ll never be as good as …”,

    • “I’m weak”

    • “I hate myself”

    • “I can’t do anything right”

    • “It’s all my fault”

    • “No one could ever love me”

    • “I will never be good enough”

  • Questions to ask:

    • What is the evidence for this thought?

    • Can I be 100% sure this is true?

    • What are the other possibilities?

    • What is a more helpful thought?

    • What advice would I give to my friend or loved one if they said this?

    • What coping strategies could help me through this?

    • What is the worst that could really happen?

    • If the worst happens, what could help me through this?

Managing Anxiety

    • Racing thoughts

    • Heart pounding

    • Sense of dread

    • Overthinking

    • Brain fog

    • Tense body

    • On edge

    • Interrupted sleep

    • Irritable

    • Rapid breathing

    • Shortness of breath

    • Panic attacks

    • Intrusive thoughts

    • Difficulty concentrating

    • Compulsions/repetitive behaviours

    • Mindfulness and meditation - try progressively relaxing your muscles from your head to your feet

    • Breathing techniques - square breathing (in for 4, hold for 4, out for 4 repeat)

    • Grounding Techniques - focusing on senses (5 things you can see, 4 things you can feel, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, 1 thing you can taste)

    • Reflection - positive self-talk, journaling

    • Talking to yourself as if advising a friend or loved one

    • Boundaries - set boundaries, say no.

    • Come back to thoughts and feelings if they’re too overwhelming right now. Set reminders or worry time and come back to it.

    • Create a self-soothe box. Include sensory stimulating items, positive memories, enjoyable calming smells, music, cooling liquids etc.

Self Care Ideas

  • Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s about maintaining your own wellbeing so that you can continue to show up for yourself and others in the best way possible.

    • Show kindness and compassion to yourself

    • Set boundaries - say no when you need it

    • Take a shower or bath

    • Spend time outdoors - disconnect from phone, and reconnect with your safe place/world

    • Sleep 7-9 hours a night

    • Journal

    • Speak with supportive friends

    • Treat yourself to food you enjoy

    • Breathing exercises

    • Positive affirmations that you are loved, you are enough

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What People Are Saying

“We speak of “working on ourselves” as if healing is a project with a deadline. But what if growth isn’t something you push through, what if it’s something you allow?”

— S.M, via website submission

“I thought for years despite the endless challenges and uphill fights I’d turn around and feel a sense of achievement or progress  but it never takes. Yet after all these years, I see I judge myself and struggle to admit pride or contentment, I’ve come to understand this: the fact that I never gave up and continue to this day—that is my success. I just hadn’t recognised it before. Despite the constant noise in my head, I’m here today and I won't dismiss that anymore. Why should I?”

- E.L, via website submission